Log #5: Battle of the Sexes (Part 2 of 3)

So Saturday I gave some insight on the male perspective, now it's time for me to attempt the very complicated, very mysterious, female perspective.

Because you're hot and you're cold.

 Okay forgive me ladies. I'm short on time, and I couldn't find many resources about you online. You socially clandestine miscreants, you. ;D So I'm going to give this a shot from the recesses of my mind and the things I've noticed and experienced. Women can be broken down into a few core categories.

Beauty

Or at least.. That's what you wish would happen.

I've always asked myself.. Why the heck do girl's dress up? Especially at School. I mean, guy's are into you looking nice.. But you can pretty much win over any guy with a V neck shirt or yoga pants. So why do they try to look so good?
Social status. It's all about social status. The desire to be noticed. If men gauge each other by strength and respectability, women judge each other by looks first. Because honestly, who wants to hang out with someone who looks like crap? It makes your taste in clothes and friends look worse.
Girl's who dress nice seem to hang around with girl's who dress up seem to be more popular than those who don't. I've seen this all around school. In short, I believe that girl's dress up for girl's first; then guys. This also explains why women can take so long to get ready in the morning...

Empathy

 

Empathy, As defined by Merriam Webster's online dictionary is: " the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience"

This basically means you can feel other people's pain. Woman are more empathetic than men, it's true because they tend to think about how their actions might effect someone else. For example, if someone made really sour lemonade for you but thought it was the best thing ever, a girl would be more likely to receive it politely and say something like: "It was good.. But I think It'd be better with more sugar." This makes girl's naturally more diplomatic than boys. And also makes them less-confrontational.

Pacifist

  

Women for the most part seem non-confrontational. Which more often than not leads to their downfall everywhere. They act too empathetic often enough to the point of indecision. This is often seen in the classic "girl-in-an-abusive-relationship scenario". Oh.. He's not abusing me.. He's just going through something right now.. Oh he didn't mean to hit me.. He'd never do it again.. When it comes down to it, typically women won't fight back. Maybe it's because they're afraid of getting hurt? Because if they're facing a man typically the man will be stronger. 

But often enough this is even seen in social situations.. Women fear hurting someone elses' feelings so much sometimes that they just end up hurting themselves.. I've seen this too many times to not believe that this is true.

While this might not have been my longest log, I believe it was a good shot at trying to determine the female perspective. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong about anything. I'd love your input. Friday, I shall conclude the "Battle of the Sexes" mini-series with "Comparison" and how these factors influence direct comparison.

 

Log #4: Battle of the Sexes: (Part 1 of 3)

And that's why this log isn't on time..

 But seriously, I'm a bit late. But the week's been stressful. Anyway you're not here to hear me babble.. (Actually you are. ;D) But let's get started.

As I stated Tuesday, A lot of the reasons women get degraded derive from comparison. Unfair comparison at that. But why is it so essential to compare?.. Most of the time because of modern context; it's not. But we still do it anyway because let's face it.. Who doesn't like to say that they're better? I know that even I for one love feeling just a little superior. But let's compare the sexes, I'll mix things up a bit and let the men go first for once. (How chivalrous of me ;D. Oh and I'm sorry. When I text AND blog I tend to use a lot more emoticons.)

In the beginning... GOD. MADE. MAN. (Chill. I'm not going on a religious rant. ;D)

Seemed like a good idea at the time.

Ah. The Man's perspective. An attitude so damaging and dangerous even it's chromosomes ask Y. What's the point in trying to live up to an ideal of manliness? Why can't you back down from the fight his girlfriend/imaginary friend says. Why can't you take being called a [insert females genitalia]? Because we're men dammit! 

While I always tell the females that in order to understand a man's view of the world you've got to think simple. Because typically their isn't complex reasoning. But when you want to understand the way of the male... (Not UPS. >.>) You've got to understand the core reasons for all of his actions. Let's start with one of the most important things about men.

Respect.

This may seem like a little word to some, but to men it can mean everything. That's why he can't just sit their and be called any little thing and not cringe. That's why a man's always tempted to do a dare. And that's one of the reason we fight. Even when it comes to global affairs, respect is a a big deal. Respect as defined by ME. Is to recognize a person's qualities and realize them as legitimate. When this doesn't happen conflict occurs. This is seen on a universal level and is only highlighted in men because of it's tendency to reach violence or hostility. But respect means everything to a man. Because while all men might not like each other, they still want to hold a certain social standing, an honor if you will among men.

Strength

Uh. I was thinking a more physical strength.

Guys gauge each other based on physical strength when seeing each other most of the time. Hence the firm handshakes, punches, etc. Any guy who's been asked what the capital of "Thailand" by one of his friends should know this... (It's bangkok ladies.) Not only does this help determine how much we respect a guy, it also helps us level him up against ourselves. It's oddly gratifying to be around  people like you I guess. Hence why the jocks tend to stay together. They're friends and the bonds of strength and respect have already been built.
This may be a bit too vague but it's one of the reasons why women fall victim to comparison. Because Men always are gauging their strengths with each other, women throw that dynamic off and make them harder to respect. Because when it comes down to it; subconsciously men tend to think that without "strength" a person isn't respectable.

Yes.. Yes we do.

Chick Magnet

This is the best word I could come up with to think of this last quality. A guys social success is often defined by how many women he has. (Or how many are interested in him.) If he's attracted a myriad of women well you can say he's going to be a pretty popular guy. This is why in ancient times how many wives a man had helped indicate his social status. Polygamy eventually got frowned upon though because I doubt anyone truly desires to be herded up and used like cattle.

Uh.. Not that kind of chick.

Leadership

This quality walks hand in hand with strength. Mainly because it takes strength to exercise leadership. Men like to dominate, and look up to other men that can dominate well. Hence the testosterone rush when we're watching those war movies and the officers lead their men into battle, and make impossible decisions that end up saving the day. Those qualities are attractive to men because we have the inward desire to lead, even if it's in a small and less extravagant way.

These are some of the core values that help define a man. Tuesday I will ATTEMPT to find out the women's perspective,  and then on friday I will do the full comparison. Making this a 3-part (Trilogy Log) if you will in it's entirety! Hopefully you've found this late, and a bit weak log at least slightly entertaining and mildly informative. The Next log will be better and on time. I promise. :P

Thought that pic may help set the tone for next week. Metroids a girl, just in case you non-gamer's didn't know. And if you don't know what Metroid is... Uh that robot is metroid.